In many ways, the internet has made mothering so much more difficult. It’s a conversation I have had with many mom friends of mine: the pressure to have a Pinterest-worthy nursery, to bounce back like a fitness model, or make gourmet baby food is real. When people only offer tiny glimpses into their lives, it’s easy for everything to look effortlessly polished. It can be hard to live up to these standards.
At the same time, I find myself incredibly grateful for the resources we have at our fingertips. Amidst all of the whitewashed perfection, there is also opportunity to find community and encouragement. Things like photo projects showing the reality of a mother’s post-baby body and community forums help us to feel less alone; there is a camaraderie there. Moms are able to bond with other moms over how hard it can be.
But what about Dads?
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Just one click onto this account and I’m sure your breath will be taken away. With 186k followers and growing, the page has surely resonated with parents everywhere. Shown are photos of fearless dads who are wearing their babies, napping with sweet ones snuggled to their chest, or just plain smiling at the joy of being a parent… all things we traditionally are shown moms doing.
Are you following @birthwithoutfear? 🌿 More shared there like this beautiful, authentic moment from @elisehurstphotography. "Remember when I said that transition was one of my favorite moments to photograph? It is such a vulnerable time with so much emotion. . Well this is a super personal post, as this is ME in the photo in the trenches of transition! I was nearing the end just a couple hours before my daughter arrived. It isn't glamorous. It is real. The toilet was giving me the most relief, but I was at the point where I was in tears and I didn't think I could do "this" anymore. My husband just held me, told me I COULD do this, told me how strong and beautiful I was, and that he loved me. . Today my daughter is 1 week old, and I'm so glad this moment was captured." . Photo by @lophotobirth. Birth with Alexandra Wyatt with @heritagehomebirths.
Let’s be real for a second here. As mothers, we learn quickly the best way to soothe a fussy baby, whip up a nourishing meal with one hand or how to get the kids on a strict sleep schedule. All too often, we become so engrossed in how we do things that we forget we have an amazing, instinctual partner by our sides who also love our kids and want to be equally involved!
This page is special because it reminds us to not forget Dads, in all of their tender strength and capabilities. My own husband succeeds in so many things that I don’t. It is a treat for me to watch his relationship with our kids grow and change (and I do have a good number of photos similar to many of these!).
Rachel is a wife and mother living in Raleigh, North Carolina. She’s a fan of good coffee, wearer of gray t-shirts, and is constantly starting books she will never finish. Her family is her joy, and she loves to engage with other moms and dads on matters of parenting. Her blog posts have also been featured on the Today Show Parenting Blog and Scary Mommy.