Tell Your Friends You Love Them by Spreading Affirmations and Kindness

Tell Your Friends You Love Them by Spreading Affirmations and Kindness

Draven Jackson
Blogger | Teacher

Too often in life, we forget to tell people we love them. Our schedules become busy and packed, full of responsibilities and things we need to do. We go days without talking with our friends, without calling our moms, and we think “Ahh, I should do that” before forgetting once again. And that’s okay – it’s understandable to get busy, and it’s alright if things like messaging your friends or talking to your family fall by the wayside.

Even so, it’s good to check in on your loved ones when you can and remind them how much you care for them. Spreading affirmations and kindness can go a long way, especially if someone is having a rough time. We can never know what all people are going through, and your friends or family may be suffering silently in places you can’t see.

It’s not your job to make sure everyone is safe and happy all the time – you are your own human with needs and responsibilities to deal with – but today, if you have a chance, use this article as a sign to reach out to the people you care about and remind them that you love them. Everyone deserves to hear that they are cared about from time to time.

They are important

Tell Your Friends You Love Them by Spreading Affirmations and KindnessOne of the best ways to share affirmations and kindness is by simply telling the people you care about that they are important. In the grand scheme of the universe, it can be easy to feel unnecessary or irrelevant sometimes. We are so small compared to everything else, and our lives are a single dot in history. And that’s okay.

You don’t have to be a famous monarch or celebrity to be important. Just because you aren’t able to move mountains or rule countries doesn’t mean you aren’t necessary. Every person’s life comes with its own hills and valleys, and your life is meaningful simply because you are alive. So remind your friends (and yourself) that their lives are important, even if they don’t always feel like they’re doing anything special.

You are happy they’re alive

I know it may seem like a silly thing to say to someone, but telling the people close to you that you’re happy that they’re alive – that you’re happy that they were born – is a great way to spread affirmations and kindness. Life is a fleeting thing – every year feels shorter and shorter and time flies by in the blink of an eye. And, unfortunately, life can also be a fragile thing.

Take today to remind the people you love that you’re happy they’re alive. That you’re so glad you get to live at the same time, experiencing life together and growing side by side. It’s crazy when you think about how long history is and how big the world can be, and yet you were still able to meet the people who matter most to you. Cherish them, hold them close, and remind them that you’re glad you can live life together.

They deserve good things

While it seems like it should be a simple enough thing to agree with – everyone deserves good things and should be given the opportunity to find happiness – sometimes, people have a hard time believing that they’re worthy of goodness. If you’re looking to share affirmations and kindness with the people around you, one way to do this is simply to tell them that they are worthy of happiness.

Everyone deserves the chance to be happy. Why we tell ourselves that we don’t is beyond me – sometimes it’s engrained by cruel things people have told us before, and sometimes it’s a side effect of our own mental health struggles – but it is so, so important to recognize that you deserve good things. You deserve simple happiness and fulfillment and joy. Never forget that.

They are more than their negative thoughts

If you have friends who struggle with mental health problems or negative thought spirals, one great way to share positive affirmations and kindness with your friends is to remind them that they are more than their negative thoughts. Whether their issues stem from anxiety and depression, body dysmorphia, PTSD, or other problems that exacerbate negative thinking, make sure to tell them that they are so much more than any of their worst thoughts about themselves.

People are complex and have so many beautiful, fun intricacies. Small habits like how you eat your yogurt or the way you hum in the car may seem completely unimportant to you, but others may find your quirks endearing or adorable (and I’m not kidding about the yogurt thing – one friend once cooed at me about how I eat yogurt in small bites like a rabbit and apparently they thought it was cute).

Remember that you are made of so many fun, colorful layers, and always remind the people in your life that their intricacies, quirks, and positive traits far outweigh whatever negativity their brains can come up with.

Your life is better with them in it

When we think of all the happiness we gain from the people we love, it can be easy to see how much our lives improve from the company we keep. Friendship and close familial relationships bring us unimaginable amounts of joy, filling our hearts with so much joy and happiness that sometimes we feel ready to burst with it.

On days when you remember how much these people mean to you, be sure to share your happiness, affirmations and kindness by telling those loved ones that your life is better because they’re in it. You don’t have to have thousands of friends and loved ones to be happy and fulfilled – simply knowing that you have a select number of people who would be there for you the moment you need them is enough to remind you of how lucky you are.

They are doing a great job

At the end of the day, one of the best ways to spread affirmations and kindness to the people you care about is by being proud of their accomplishments and letting them know that they’re doing a great job. In life, we’re all just doing the best we can to get by. Sometimes we fly and sometimes we fall, but we’re all just trying to find happiness and comfort and create lives we can be proud of.

You’re doing a great job. Even if you don’t feel like you’re succeeding, or maybe you don’t think you’re doing anything of note to the rest of the world, you’re still surviving and trying your best. That’s an absolutely amazing accomplishment and you should be proud of how far you’ve come. Don’t forget to tell the people you love that you’re proud of them, and always remind yourself that you’re doing your best and that’s enough.

Do you know more ways to share positive affirmations and kindness with the people in your life? Tell us in the comments!

Draven Jackson HeadshotAbout Draven Jackson

Draven is an avid writer and reader who enjoys sharing her opinions on movies, books, and music with the rest of the world. She will soon be working as a teacher in Japan and hopes to use her experience to connect with other teachers and students around the globe. Draven spends most of her time at home with her family, her dogs, and her ferret.

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17 Comments on “Tell Your Friends You Love Them by Spreading Affirmations and Kindness”

  1. My mom raised my 4 sisters and myself on her own. She was such a warm and loving person and always made time each day to spend a one on one with us even though she worked several jobs to make ends meet. She always told us everyday how lucky she was to be our mom. She taught us all to say something nice to someone each day as you never knew when they might need a smile or a kind word.

  2. this is So True. i try to make a daily commitment of sending test messages to my loved ones and friends because it is so important, they know they are loved and cared and thought about.

  3. Thank you for the great advice and reminder to cherish my family and friends. It’s so important that they know that you value them, are proud and supportive, and that your life is made better by their being in it.

  4. I just enjoyed this post. Kindness is the word we love by in our house. If you can be anything, be kind.

  5. I love this! I try to always say “thank you for spending time with me” after hanging out with a friend

  6. I always make sure that my friends and family know how much I love them and appreciate them. I believe it is very important.

  7. I always tell mine, that I love them. I celebrate when they have an achievement of any kind, and emphasize when they are upset.
    My friends, have been my family, since forever.
    Emancipated minor, age 15.

  8. I’ve always been told to take it day by day or even moment by moment. This has helped me when I have an enormous task in front me!!

  9. Just talking to someone each day lets you know that you are still connected to the outside world. It is so easy to just let all that go sometimes. It is important to stay connected.

  10. These days, telling our friends & family that we Love and appreciate them is so important!!! I recently joined the ‘You Matter’ Movement where I give out a simple small card that says, ‘You Matter’ to friends, family, or random people. It’s the small acts of kindness that make a huge difference to others’ lives!

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