Yafa Crane Luria
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How do you celebrate when you don’t want to celebrate? When times are tough or you just don’t have a lot of time or money, what brings up my spirit is a celebration of things the HAVE gone right. It’s sort of a gratitude list but peppier! There is action involved, not just a thought or feeling (BTW, did you know that gratitude lists and celebrations are scientifically proven to improve your health? Here’s a great article on that topic.
I asked a group of moms what suggestions they had for raising the roof when they’re feeling down: Below are 50 ways to kick it up a notch when you can’t motivate yourself to get it done (By the way, lack of motivation could signal a chemical deficiency, like with Dopamine… Do you know about increasing the “Feel-Good Chemicals” in yourself and others? Check this out too: “Anxious, Angry, and Arguing: How to Help Your Super-Emotional ADD/ADHD Child or Teen”)
- Cook or bake something! Sometimes it’s comfort food, but often it’s a new recipe that helps give me a new perspective. Often it is to celebrate a random holiday just because.
- Move furniture. Nothing like rearranging my house to give me a new outlook (This includes doing some decluttering)
- Have a bath. Put some Epsom salts or essential oils in that bath to super-charge it. Essential oils like orange, bergamot, and tangerine are very uplifting. Lavender is a calming scent.
- Pop on some lively music and sing or dance to it.
- Get a massage or other body treatment that is soothing. Having people touch in safe ways can be very uplifting. Giving or receiving massages help the giver and the receiver.
- Play with my kids, even if it’s a computer game. It can make it easier for kids to transition from gaming to another activity if you play with them for 15-30 minutes.
- Have a phone call with my best friend.
- Stretch, Go for a walk, walk up and downstairs.
- Do yoga
- You can focus on one word, one phrase from a book or from a song, or something affirming.
- Guided meditation is a way to meditate while following someone else’s voice. Check out these free apps: “Headspace” and “Insight Timer”
- Take a nap
- Craft/sew (you can even order supplies online)
- Grin (the act of grinning – a big cheesy smile – will actually improve your mood. Weird but true)
- Strike a superhero pose – same thing as with grinning. You can’t help but feel better.
- Drive through the woods, the mountains, by the seashore, through the countryside. Take time to look at it all.
- Do some shoulder shrugs – it will help you relax.
- Create/listen to an uplifting playlist
- Get off the internet
- Read a book or two
- Read a passage from a favorite spiritual or uplifting book
- Journal your feelings
- Hug a tree
- Eat some protein or dark chocolate to raise Dopamine levels
- Take a hot shower
- Take a cold shower (it doesn’t feel great but it raises Serotonin levels)
- Play with an animal
- Watch something calming like fish swimming, a fire in the fireplace, a flickering candle, or trees waving in the wind
- Listen to white noise for 5 minutes. The app “Relax Melodies” has a good selection of free sounds.
- Yup. These nuggets are apparently super powerful
- Same thing.
- Bang on something
- Have a stuffed animal that you can talk to.
- Paint, draw, mold clay (very tactile) or do some other artsy thing.
- Do something for someone random. Smile at them, offer a compliment or pay for their coffee.
- Read something funny. I like “Thunder Dungeon” (Google it)
- Watch a comedy
- Take a break from something that depresses you (for me it’s TV, politics, Facebook). You can even take a break from your family when you need to.
- Omega 3 fish oil or flaxseed oil can help with mood regulation
- Make a doctor’s appointment to see if there is something medical you can do
- Email Yafa and ask for some guidance or a virtual hug.
- Drink something soothing that you love – a favorite tea, coffee, or other beverage
- Put a blanket in the dryer and let it run for 10 minutes. Then put that warm blanket around yourself. Sooooo nice.
- Walk in nature
- Stand still in nature, close your eyes, and pay attention to the sounds for 5 minutes.
- Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or play solitaire (but not on the computer or phone – that’s too mind-numbing
- Learn a relaxation technique from another culture
- And last… APPARENTLY, taking a probiotic is helpful as well, since the most current research is current research equates gut health with mental health.
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About Yafa Crane Luria
Yafa Crane Luria specializes in helping families who are new to ADD/ADHD, who are facing a new stage in ADHD parenting, or who have tried nearly everything and are still frustrated and confused by their child’s or teen’s Blocked but Brilliant brain. A true ADHD trailblazer and fierce advocate, Yafa is a 35-year veteran teacher and school counselor, a certified Positive Discipline trainer, and an award-winning author. In 2018, after decades of working with ADHD kiddos and families, Yafa designed an ADHD- and neuro-divergent brain-specific behavior program that is customizable to individual families in every way. It addresses the unique challenges of parenting a child/teen with a “Big Heart and a Noisy Brain™.”
Fun fact: Yafa’s nickname growing up was “Mountain Goat” because she climbed EVERYTHING. You can listen to Yafa’s personal ADHD story and get more information on her website: BlockedtoBrilliant.com
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Great tips! Can’t wait to try them. Personally I doing my skincare with natural beauty products, it just makes me feel good about myself. I have been trying this brand called the moms co and they are quite nice.
I need to print this and frame it as a reminder on how to get myself in a better mood. Great article! Two thumbs up!
Thank you so much for all of the ideas. Some days I feel like crying as it can be so daunting. I have been making a lot and just the smell of freshly baked cookies can really help me relax and smile.